I strongly feel that unfortunately, many people today due to being so caught up with their personal lives do not worry about others, and are forgetting how precious the time is. People find themselves, repeat themselves over and over again. At times you might take heed at others and it will just fall on deaf ears. Everyone can go on about their problems till the cows come home and everyone can cry on plenty of shoulders repeating their story ten times over gaining much needed sympathy each time, but at the end of day, if nothing is being done to try to rectify the situation, nothing is going to change and all is happening is that one continues to fall into the deep, black hole of self-pity. What's stopping you from making a difference?
Stuff happens to people all the time, my experiences may be worse than what you've been through and yours maybe worse than the next person. But you know what? You have to accept that at the end of the day, you have to accept that it's life and life is going to throw a whole lot of stuff at you but life is what YOU make it. You hold the pen of fate in your hands...Draw what you want to find in yourself. When faced with a dilemma, you have two choices:1- shut everyone out and dwell on nothing but your problems, though do nothing will change anything. 2- Sort it out.
Which one is more constructive? What is to happen if everytime you have a problem, you get ahead of yourself? Some spiteful comments? Broken hearts? Self-destruction? Cutting yourself off from everyone? Will you be dealing with your problem? Will ignoring your problem, make it go away? I remember someone once saying the harder you try to ignore something the longer it prys on your mind and that small problem magnifies itself 10x over in your mind till a point when you cannot turn back and sort stuff out. Then the regrets kick in. So, whats stopping you from rewinding and saying sorry and start over? 'Pride' that little voice in your head whispers....’’ there is no way they want to know you anymore... Just leave them. Screw them...they don’t give a damn about you, so ignore them...Ignore them... Ignore them...!’’ And unfortunately, that's what many end up doing.
Life is what you make it. If you have a problem, sort it out. If you don't want to talk to someone do not expect things to work out on its own... That is just creating more misery. You have a problem with someone or something, don't waste time but let it out with them ASAP and move on. You hear about the number of divorces and separations taking place in this day and age, increasing each year. Why is that so? I ask myself. It's simple. Look at our lifestyles. Look at our own characters. No one has time for anyone else. We don't communicate properly anymore and without communication things tend to fall apart. How would you feel if you have something to say to someone but because of one reason or another, you keep on putting it off, or worse still ''let them figure it out by themselves!'' ? What if that time passes and you miss your opportunity to say what you really feel and mean? Then what? It will be too late, that's what. If you love someone, tell them. If you don't want to know someone, tell them. Don't mess with time, because you know that the hour glass set by God before our souls are blown into each and every one of us, what if that runs out any second now. Then what?
Time is precious. There are many things in my life that I would have done if I had the chance to live those moments again. I wish i had got the opportunity to say goodbye to my friend before she died not so long ago. I wish that instead of giving my mom the silent treatment because she had been vexed, I had talked it through with her instead of a day later. I wish I could make you realize how I feel every time you walk away from me, so angry, but I do not wish harm to come to you and I wish to do you no harm. I wish.. i wish.. i wish... Why don't we all make that wish, reality? Stop wishing and start living. What's stopping us? Pride? Fear? If you don't try, you will never know how things will have turned out.
How would you feel if you were diagnosed with a terminal illness. It's like a countdown resounding in your mind... 2 months... 30 days.......5 days..4 days...3days..2 days..1 day...23 hours..22 hours...21 hours...20 hours.......I bet you would then run around making things right with people. I bet you would then be picking up that phone and explaining how you really feel. I bet you would let down your defenses then.. stop looking for justifications and just make things work. I bet no one wants to die knowing someone somewhere isn't happy with them. But, alas with every passing day, we carry on living our mundane lives, too cooped up with our own worries to think about others.
We all make our mistakes. We all have our flaws. Remember, no one is perfect so don't waste your time looking for someone who is, because throughout your life people are going to let you down and do things you might not like. That's life. I used to think the whole world was my enemy, just because one person wronged me. And the next person wronged me. And the next. After sometime, i realized that people are bound to do wrong, but people are also likely to turn back and regret it.
You might read this now and think about it for a bit. You might even talk to someone, apologize for your actions, and try to make amends. But then again, you might just let it slip. The only reason why i am writing any of this, is to make people aware of what exactly is at stake.
